Babies are often sleepy for the first several days of life. Crying and fussing slowly increases from around 3 to 4 weeks of life and usually peaks at about 6 weeks before beginning to decline.
Crying is your baby's way of telling you they need some help. Your baby is trying to tell you they are hungry, tired, cold, hot, uncomfortable, bored or lonesome. You may feel you are not being a good parent because you can't figure out what your baby wants right away. However, you are being a good parent by trying different things.
You can't spoil your baby by meeting their needs. You are helping your baby feel secure and loved. Babies who are carried and attended to quickly cry less than babies who only get attention when they cry.
As your baby gets older you will be better able to figure out what your baby needs. Your baby will also begin to cry less as they learn you will respond to their cries.
Don't ever shake your baby to try to quiet crying. Call 911 if you think a caregiver is abusing your baby.
At times you may feel overwhelmed by your baby's crying. That can make you want to cry. It can also be frustrating that what works one time to settle your baby may not work the next. Try the things that have worked before, one at a time. Then try some of the ideas from the list below.
When your baby cries, try to figure out their cues. Is your baby tired, hungry, in pain, bored or overwhelmed? Try feeding, burping, changing your baby's diaper, adding clothes for warmth or taking clothes off if your baby is too warm.
Massage is a way to connect with your baby after work or daycare.
If your baby still cries, try:
Massage can stimulate physical, brain and sensory development. It also improves circulation and boosts the immune system.
Sometimes babies have pent-up energy and cry to get rid of it. If nothing seems to be working and you sense yourself becoming overwhelmed or frustrated, it's OK to place your baby on their back in the crib. Your baby will be safe while you take a break.
Check on your baby every three to five minutes. If your baby continues to cry after 30 minutes of this, call your baby's health care provider.
While your baby is in the crib, you can:
Remember that you are learning about each other. What you are learning now may help you next time.
If you find yourself getting angry or feeling overwhelmed, or if you don't feel calmer after taking a break, put your baby safely in their crib. Go to another room for five to 10 minutes. Ask for help from your partner, a relative or friend. Or, call a crisis nursery located near you, or call the Crisis Connection at 612-379-6363.
When a caregiver becomes frustrated, upset or angry at a crying baby, the caregiver may lose control and try shaking a baby to get them to calm down.
Shaken baby syndrome is a type of brain injury caused by violently shaking a baby. Shaking causes a baby's brain to bounce back and forth in the skull.
Shaking a baby — even for as little as five seconds — can cause:
Symptoms of shaken baby syndrome depend on how hard the baby was shaken and for how long. Symptoms include:
Important: You can't cause shaken baby syndrome by gently bouncing your baby, playfully tossing them in the air, jogging with them, or putting them in a bouncer, swing or other motion-type of baby equipment.
Try the "colic curl" for a fussy baby.
Cradle your baby facing away from you with legs bent up in your hands.
Cradle your baby facing you with legs bent up against your chest.
You can also try the football hold. Lay your baby on your forearm with their stomach against your arm. Your baby should be lying on their stomach. Your baby's head will be near your elbow and their legs will straddle your palm. Let your baby's cheek rest on your forearm.