Sex may be the last thing on your mind, especially if you've had a difficult birth, have painful stitches, or have had many sleepless nights. However, after your body heals and taking care of your baby gets easier, you will likely feel more ready for sex.
In the meantime, spend some time each day with your partner. Snuggle, go for a walk, share what is worrying you. Take time to nurture your emotional relationship with your partner.
Before you leave the hospital, talk with your doctor about any restrictions on sexual activity. If you find sex is still uncomfortable after a few months, talk to your regular health care provider.
If you plan to have a baby again soon, you may want to avoid using hormone methods of birth control. That way, you will not have to wait for your body to readjust to your normal hormone levels and menstrual cycle. This makes it easier to get pregnant.
These tips may help you when you are ready to resume sexual activity:
Because it is possible to get pregnant soon after giving birth, use a reliable form of birth control every time you have sex.
In the hospital before discharge or at your postpartum checkup, talk with your health care provider about birth control choices that are good for you — especially if you are breastfeeding. The only option that is 100 percent effective is abstinence (not having sex).
The chart below gives you some brief information about birth control.
Birth control | About |
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The pill prescription female use |
The pill contains the hormones estrogen and progestin. This method is not recommended if you are breastfeeding. Certain health conditions may mean you need to use a different form of birth control. |
Minipills prescription female use |
These contain only the hormone progestin, making them safe to use while breastfeeding or when health conditions prevent the use of the two-hormone pills. They must be taken at the same time every day to be the most effective. The minipills can decrease milk supply. |
Contraceptive skin patch prescription female use |
Hormones progestin and estrogen are released into your body through a patch on your skin. This method is not recommended if you are breastfeeding. You need to change the patch from time to time, based on the schedule for the product you buy. |
Injection health care provider visit female use |
A hormone shot is given once every one to three months. It may cause prolonged or irregular bleeding. This injection may decrease milk production if given in the first three days after birth. |
Male condom over-the-counter male use |
They are thin sheaths that unroll and fit over an erect penis. One must be used each time before having sex and removed afterward. |
Female condom over-the-counter female use |
A pouch with two rings placed inside the vagina before intercourse. One must be used each time before having sex and removed afterward. |
IUD or intrauterine device
health care provider visit female use |
A small, flexible device is placed in the uterus. It can stay in for 5 years (Mirena) or 10 years (Paraguard). |
Diaphragm
health care provider visit female use |
This is a thin, rubber dome that you cover with a spermicide (sperm-killing jelly), and then insert into the vagina so it covers the cervix. It must be inserted each time before having sex and removed afterward. Note: Do not reuse your diaphragm from before your pregnancy. You must be refitted after having your baby. |
Cervical cap
health care provider visit female use |
A soft rubber cap smaller than a diaphragm but works the same way. It is usually used with a spermicide. |
Contraceptive foam
over-the-counter female use |
The foam is a spermicide. (It kills sperm.) It both destroys sperm and blocks the opening to the cervix. It is placed in the vagina before sex using an applicator. |
Vaginal rings over-the-counter female use |
Small rings containing hormones progestin and estrogen are placed within your vagina. This method is not recommended if you are breastfeeding. Some rings can be used only once. Some can be left in place for a period of time, depending on the product you buy. |
Essure® procedure female use |
A procedure that blocks the fallopian tubes. Inserts (made out of the same material as heart stents) are put into the fallopian tubes to keep sperm from reaching your eggs. Follow-up testing is needed. |
Tubal ligation surgery female use |
This is a one-time surgical procedure that permanently sterilizes a female. |
Vasectomy surgery male use |
This is a one-time surgical procedure that permanently sterilizes a male. |
Natural family planning
health care provider visit female and male use |
This is a method of monitoring the female's basal body temperature, estimating the time of ovulation, and timing intercourse to occur when the female is not fertile. This requires careful personal observation and charting. |